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Many people come to therapy because they can’t seem to put themselves first in their romantic relationship. They say things like: “I need to make them happy otherwise they won’t want to be with me.” ...

Drawing the line between aggressiveness and assertiveness is always a difficult proposition, whether you're managing a team or trying to advance in your career. When you must take a stand, you may ...

People often tell me they admire my courage to demand what I need. I don’t see it as courage. I see it as being clear and direct about what I need to do my work and support my health. There seems to ...

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There’s a powerful difference between getting what you want and alienating everyone in the process. That difference often boils down to understanding aggression vs assertiveness. One builds walls ...

This post originally appeared on the Crew blog. I used to hate answering questions in class. I mean what if I got it wrong or what if I didn’t say it right? Nope, too many risks. Instead of answering ...

It’s only a matter of time before a life-long people pleaser wakes up and cries, “Enough is enough!” Instead of going with the flow to be as nice as possible, there’s often a tipping point when you ...

Regrettably, I haven’t personally read any on the subject, so I’m not in a position to help … with the book request, that is. I presume you’re asking because this has been a challenge for you, and ...

Q. This may sound like a trivial problem, and I know it is, in the scheme of things, but I am still stressed about it. I went to get my hair done for the Christmas formal. I had pics of the way I ...

A new college graduate reported for work on the first day and looked forward to meeting with her boss. She asked if she could speak first and proceeded to inform the boss that she would not be working ...

Everyone is familiar with the concept of assertiveness: the sweet spot between aggressive and passive communication characterized by direct, respectful conversation. Yet few can accurately gauge just ...