DEAR MISS MANNERS: We were informed of a friend’s daughter’s wedding plans recently, and were surprised when the formal invitation stated “black tie optional.” Miss Manners: We feel like we are a fun ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I are in our 80s now, but we have been married only 20 years. This is a second marriage for each of us. People are frequently asking us how long we have been married.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I am a widow with many acquaintances and activities. I am physically and verbally affectionate with family members and close friends, and am generous with hugs and “I love yous.” A ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was at the dentist last week and the hygienist, whom I had never met before, mentioned she had a new grandchild. I naturally congratulated her and asked the polite questions: sex, ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I think the reason that people think using “ma’am” or “sir” is offensive stems from the idea that you have to assume someone’s gender identity in order to use them. There are many ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: Nearly three decades ago, my husband committed a serious crime. Related Articles Miss Manners: We heard that the bride’s father was ranting about us Miss Manners: Every year I get ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I do a lot of recreational traveling. In some cases, we take local tours. I’m finding that these tours often include a significant number of comments using America as ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How can you be responsible for ghosting someone when they never write to you? Just because I have decided to accept their silence, and return it to them, doesn’t mean I don’t care.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I was at the head of a line to vote; the precinct wasn’t crowded, and no one’s wait was long. The precinct volunteer encountered a problem that prompted her to seek help, and I ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: How does one diplomatically, yet adamantly, state that guests should not bring a dish to supplement your holiday event? I’m frequently asked, “What can I bring?” I always reply, ...

Dear Miss Manners: I’m sure you are aware that grief is one of the toughest emotions to process. I therefore believe those grieving should be given a break and allowed to grieve in the manner that ...

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A friend called me asking if she could crash at my place that same day. I thought that was super-rude. Related Articles Miss Manners: We feel like we are a fun couple — but maybe ...