What is an Au Pair? An Au Pair is a “big sister” who lives abroad as an extended member of a host family. These young women provide child care services in exchange for room, board, a weekly stipend, and contributions towards education. Most Au Pairs participate in the Au Pair Program for the valuable cultural experience of living with a host family and are treated more as a member of the family than as an employee. Having a bond with your host family is very important and will make your Au Pair